April
24th 2013
I am at the library listening to a
group of people debating and evaluating psychologically/verbally
assaultive group behaviour. The most common emotion displayed during
this discussion are the group's SMILES
and laughter.
One guy says he would not know what it
was like to be “ganged up on” as he “pretty much gets along”
with “everybody.”
There is an old biblical saying, if
“everybody” likes you, then you are doing something wrong.
What always strikes me in these group
assessments is the turn around; the turning AWAY
from the judging of the aggressors and toward the judgement of the
victims. It is like saying you would not be group assaulted if you
had been well liked (like the speaker
who wants to feel safe and secure) by
those performing the
assault. It is similar to other excuses for group abuse or crimes
against individuals. Like women being told they would not be a rape
victim if they were not “sending out signals” indicating they
wanted to be assaulted.
Or university students “knowing” THEY
could not get a psychiatric label because THEY
are not sick.1
Or idiots trained to believe they can't be a victim unless they
CHOOSE to be and therefore those who
don't know that “deserve” to be attacked as an “inferior.”
This is the stuff that generates Stockholm Syndrome in victims. "I
have to get the psycho holding me hostange with the machine gun to
LIKE me so he won't blow me away. Of course the smiling assessors
rarely, if ever, see the lack of logic in their own assessments;
mainly because they don't really WANT to
see it or hear it. When held hostage it's one thing but why the
delusional need to feel safe when it's NOT you?
Are you smiling too much to get attacked?
Usually what the “popular” people
are doing wrong is making sure they stay
popular with pretty much EVERYBODY. That
of course means not taking an unpopular
stand against ANYTHING.
Then the topic turned to “teasing”
which is usually defined as cute and “fun” and the smiles and
laughter appeared again.
The reason we don't see this problem is
because the people
discussing it don't see themselves.
You consistently miss
the point. The point is this:
Your GROUP
behaviour is DENIED to
exist and is re-framed
as the imagination of
those on the receiving
end of your assessments and evaluations. This creates the SPLIT
in reality which you
then work very hard to
keep from seeing and hearing in order to maintain the group delusion
of superiority, normality/abnormality and “difference.” There is
no real difference. It
is an illusion.
Next the discussion turned to crazy
people and the difference between crazy people who are really smart
and crazy people who are really quite stupid. The topic they did not
cover of course is the one on the crazy people who think they are
sane and “normal”
and never suspect, for even a minute, that their agreements together
about who is crazy and who is not, is a predominant symptom
of the craziness in
them and the
sick society that they routinely support and enable, with all those
amused smiles about
those crazy people who are just not like them. This is another point
of agreement between
us.
Here is a new thought for you:
What if you didn't
define the people you are discussing in their absence, or worse, from
four feet away, as “crazy,” as your
starting point for your group
discussion? How would your
assessments and judgements of what they
say and do change, and how might your
assessments of yourselves
and what YOU are saying
and doing change as well?
Change
your premise; change your experience. Change to
World, one idiot at a time. Pretend, just for the fun of it, that the
people you are calling crazy, actually aren't
crazy. They are just in a lot of distress from being CALLED
crazy ,and then being treated
by others “as if” they were crazy.
Then listen to what they tell you about
their
experiences of you
and others and see if you can make any “sense” of it
when attached to your new
PREMISE.
1 Ignoring the fact that
“claiming” you aren't “sick” is one of the things which gets
assessed as a 'symptom” that you ARE
sick!
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