Monday, January 17, 2011

What is the Attempt to Communicate...

... with the Dysfunctional “Normal” Really Like?By Patricia Lefave, Admitted Monophrenic

Well, it's like sitting at the same table with them while they discuss you in the third person. You then say to them, “I can hear you. I am sitting right here.” 
They ignore you and what you just said. They don't respond to you at all. But then, they discuss amongst themselves what you just said, by repeating it back to each other: “She says she can hear you. She says, “I am sitting right here.” What do you suppose she means by that?” 
You smile at them because you think they must be joking. After all what else could such obvious, silly behaviour BE but a joke?
So you say, “Why don't you just ask me?” 
But the response  to you is once again, no response at all. In fact, the group at the table continues to treat you like you are invisible as a human being or like you are not really there. Again, they talk about you amongst themselves, “who do you think she is talking to?” they ask each other.
One of them then offers a theory on that: “She is just showing us the conversation she is hearing inside her own head.”
Another suggests: “She is talking to invisible people.” (then she laughs, clearly indicating how 'crazy' you must be to be doing that!)
You laugh too though, because the thought pops into you head, “it is more like I am talking to people who think THEY are invisible and apparently they think they are inaudible too!”
You laugh a bit more at the absurdity of this while the others sitting there with you at the table discuss that then as well.
“Apparently 'they' laugh for no reason.”
Now you are starting to get pissed off at this 'joke.'
You think to yourself, “if any group understands what a lack of 'reason' might be, it sure is this bunch of duplicitous idiots!” 
And so it goes, and goes, without any possible resolution seen (or wanted) until finally the group of 'normals' finds a way to make you the crazy one and themselves the 'normal' ones, by getting a psychiatrist to find a nice, neat, effective containment label for you. That way the normal group can be always right, and never wrong, and the dysfunctional, long standing tradition of non- communication can be preserved.  
Now that the precedent has been set, and the definitions of you, and all LIKE you, have been written down in a book, by those who thought them up as a way of explaining it away, the fact that they have been written in a book 'proves' them right. The next person like you can now easily be contained, controlled and invalidated for having basically the same perceptions of their reality, as you had of yours.
For now, the tautological argument does two things at once: it explains AWAY your experience of the group, and the similar experiences of others, at the same time that it protects and defends the group dysfunction and the benefits of that dysfunction, which exist in sociological terms. 
Plus of course, it is all legal because 'experts' in humans being, who create and define the nature of reality itself FOR you, are in control of it all . Since they are, and no actual evidence of anything is needed (or usually wanted) to make the label stick to you like crazy glue, you will find that there is nothing you can ever say, or do, that will change that and that there is essentially no way out. You will now talk in circles and be talked AT, or about, in circles as well.  Everything you think,  say, do or feel is now neatly and easily defined in terms of your pathology and your feeling of invisibility as a human being will become an intense and permanent one. You see you have now been forced OUT of your own reality and pushed into an alternate one: 'disease process,' where everything seems to be backwards, upside down and inside out.  That is because it is;  but you see the group doesn't see it at all, and the group tells YOU what your reality is, you genetic defective you. You don't tell them. 
Question for all of you 'normal' people: Do any of you see anything in this above related experience that corresponds to the 'circle' or 'snare' or 'trap' often spoken of by those who are breaking under pressure? 
Now just for 'fun' at the end of this piece, let me throw in a little bit of 'religiosity' for you from the people who think they are Jesus, or like Jesus etc.  
 From the Bibles: 
New International Version (©1984)
"Among my people are wicked men who lie in wait like men who snare birds and like those who set traps to catch men. 
New Living Translation (©2007)
"Among my people are wicked men who lie in wait for victims like a hunter hiding in a blind. They continually set traps to catch people. 
English Standard Version (©2001)
For wicked men are found among my people; they lurk like fowlers lying in wait. They set a trap; they catch men. 
New American Standard Bible (©1995)
'For wicked men are found among My people, They watch like fowlers lying in wait; They set a trap, They catch men. 
GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)"Wicked people are found among my people. They lie in ambush like bird catchers. They set traps and catch people. 
King James Bible
For among my people are found wicked [men]: they lay wait, as he that setteth snares;[1] they set a trap, they catch men. 
American King James Version
For among my people are found wicked men: they lay wait, as he that sets snares; they set a trap, they catch men. 
Note: In these times of course, we usually call these people “con artists.” The meaning though is pretty much the same isn't it despite the different sounding language or choice of words. 
Another bit of 'religiosity' for you: 
“You tie burdens on the backs of others which you, yourselves, could not carry.” 
The exact quote depends upon from which translation you read and in what time period but here are a few of them as examples; 
Isaiah 46:1  Bel bows down, Nebo stoops low; their idols[2] are borne by beasts of burden. The images that are carried about are burdensome, a burden for the weary.
Matthew 23:3 So you must obey them and do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach.
Luke 11:46 Jesus replied, "And you experts in the law, woe to you, because you load people down with burdens they can hardly carry, and you yourselves will not lift one finger to help them.  
Also the corresponding concept in estian terms might be the nexus statement:

what you do with problems is hand them to someone else.”
Does this statement above 'enlighten ' you as a victim of It OR as an aggressor? Might it depend upon your 'perspective'?   
estian concept: “Reality is all a matter of perspective.”  
That is just as true for all of you as it is to me. I repeat, ad infinitum:
I am not the one who doesn't understand; YOU are. 
Now do you notice any connections at all between the experiences of the identified patients, the psychiatrized, the hidden agendas of domination and the language and meaning of psychosis? Anybody? 
Or are you all too bloody brainwashed by the idea that it is all “meaningless” to be able to see and hear the perfectly obvious?  
FYI: I just tried “Googling” Bible quotes to defined my source as I am not one to quote chapter and verse.  Though auto complete came up with quotes on love, family, and forgiveness by the ton, there was NO auto complete suggestion at all of 'contrition.' That means no one is interested in that part. I think that, in itself, shows us the lack of value placed generally on that trait and perhaps that is a real part of the problem in the big picture.

[1]  A “Snare” is a circular trap. The harder the 'bird' fights to get free, the tighter it gets. That is an analogy. A metaphor.
[2]  Think of words like “idols” and “images” in more metaphysical than concrete terms. Think of those you 'idolize' today and what 'image' you want to project and protect.

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