Saturday, April 08, 2006
Physician, Heal Thyself
By Patricia Lefave, Labelled, D.D.(P)
It is not what you say you believe in that matters as much as what you demonstrate you believe in.
If you model equality, you are teaching equality.
If you model power and control over others, a superior/inferior split, one standard for you, and another for me, you are modelling and teaching domination and submission as a desirable norm.
We can only really teach by example because it is both a demonstration of self control, and the method used for blocking the attempts of others to control us. It defines our personal space.
If your personal example, your model, is duplicitous, then THAT is what you are teaching, whether you expect anyone to be AWARE of it or not.
That's reality Doc, and It is biting the hands that feeds It. So, physician, heal thyself. When you do, we will all be a lot better off. Even the ''experts.''